Sunday, November 7, 2010

Simply Let Your Yes be Yes and Your No be No

Today at my church the sermon was on purity and the various ways it's expressed and one of those ways was through our mouths. The verse from the title of this blog is from Matthew 5:37 as we're studying the Beatitudes.

This verse and the quote below have especially spoke to me lately:

"If it is important to you, you will find a way. If it is not, you will find an excuse." - LovableWords via Twitter

I don't know why, but for most of my adult life I've encountered a problem with most people I know not letting their yesses be yes and their nos be no when dealing with me. This has especially been a problem I've had with female associates. I'm an extremely loyal friend and a woman of my word. While I don't consider myself an all out people pleaser (my sanity comes first!), I do genuinely like helping people and being dependable. Unfortunately, this isn't always reciprocated.

Mr. Love Bird often hears my rants after being stood up, let down and canceled on and he usually remarks, "I don't know why you bother!"  Honestly, deep down I don't want to change who I am just cause I'm slighted by others. I like being known as helpful and dependable, but I don't want to be a doormat, and YES, I do know how to say no.

Often I double and even triple book myself cause plans are canceled constantly or I make plan C, D and E because I'm very used to people not following through. Why are things so fluid in our culture? I get that emergencies come up but I can attest that it's definitely not normal the rate that broken promises and canceled plans happens to me.

When I was in the corporate world my associates and clients would always exclaim at how I actually answered my phone and returned calls. Ummm, isn't that how it's supposed to be??? What's wrong with being courteous?

Anyway, this is more of a venting post than anything, but I'm always going to be a woman of my word. Not changing for anyone.

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